Why is it that if work is going well, then your personal life is in turmoil? After two weeks of desperately wanting to quit my job, things seem to be sorting themselves out at work, and you know what that means. It means that my home life has been in shambles, after ten years together my husband decides that he doesn’t like me… He still loves me, but he informed me that I am hard to like. It makes a person wonder, if I’m so hard to like, why are you still here? I know the root cause of his recent dislike, after years of being mistreated and scorned by his elitist want to be mother & siblings, I have begun refusing to associate with any member of his family that does not treat me with the common courtesy that you would afford a stranger. Also, if they cannot treat me decently, I do not trust them around my daughter without my supervision. What tops everything is the fact that up until ten years ago, my sister-in-law was my best friend that is until I started dating her oldest brother. We had been friends since sixth grade, even though their mother tried to interfere, in spite of everything we remained friends. Until, I had the unmitigated gall to expect my husband to put me before her and her mother. The nerve of me, to expect someone who has vowed that he loves, honors, and cherishes me to hold to a vow made before witnesses and God. There are times when I want to lose my cool and through them both the cussing that I feel they so richly deserve, but I was raised with a sense of morals and to conduct myself in a certain manner. Manners are something that my husband’s family is unfamiliar with, a totally foreign custom. So to be told that I am hard to like was very hurtful, and just wrong. I admit I’m not Mother Theresa, but neither am I the devil incarnate. I am a normal person, who happens to be aware that she does have value outside of her husband. I’m sorry that my husband does not define who I am, because I’m not such a weakling that I cannot define myself. I know who I am; I am a woman who is fully capable of supporting my family in every way, taking care of our financial, emotional and physical needs with or without help. So excuse me if I don’t meet your expectations of how a woman should be. It just makes me so mad, that I supposedly cause all kinds of “family issues” when I do not wish to be involved in their little dramas and for the last year have not attended their family gatherings. Of course now I interfere with their relationship with my husband and child. I swear sometimes I think divorce wouldn’t be such a bad thing, even though I love my husband, the temptation to cut the tie between myself and his family is almost overwhelming.
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